About Amy C. Willis
My journey to becoming a Sobriety & Mindset Coach is a long one that started earlier than I can probably recognize.
Like many, I started drinking in my teens and continued into my 30s. Also like many, I started drinking in an effort to cope with my life (in the absence of healthy coping strategies) and to solve for unaddressed trauma and pain. My father struggled with alcohol addiction and my family home generally lacked the knowledge and practice of healthy coping strategies, which is not a judgment on my parents; I genuinely believe that they did the best they could with what they had. Drinking allowed me to press pause on what was happening, to create pockets of mental and emotional relief and to loosen up as a relatively shy and introverted kid. While my early drinking wasn't necessarily a "problem", it eventually became a massive problem that was slowly killing me, keeping me numb and tuned out. Over time, I came to develop a severe addiction to alcohol that had become detrimental to my life.
In 2014, my dad died unexpectedly and this event impacted me deeply and forever changed the trajectory of my life. From his passing, ironically, I learned what self-care really was, learned how to create and hold boundaries and probably most importantly, began to question my own problematic relationship with alcohol.
While it took me a while to get sober, it was ultimately my dad's death that indirectly got me on the recovery path and also started my journey to becoming a Sobriety & Mindset Coach. I am proud to say I have been sober since Aug 23, 2016. It took (and takes) a lot of intentional hard work and it was the best decision I could have ever made for myself. I am madly in love with the life I've created for myself and I know that life is only possible through sobriety.
In witnessing my dad's struggles with alcohol, I subconsciously decided that my life was not going to end up like his and so I made different choices. I knew that if I wanted my life to be different, I was responsible for making it different through my beliefs, thoughts, actions and behaviours. It was deeply uncomfortable, necessary emotional work and it's work I'm incredibly proud of doing.
I started reading a lot of personal development and self-help books (visit my Lead Your Life Library page to see some of my faves), and began to dismantle my life, examining my thoughts, actions, habits and patterns, decided to ditch anything that was not in service to my sobriety. With time and consistency, I started to feel empowered in my life, truly understanding that what happens next was and is up to me.
I began to understand the impact that beliefs and habits have on our daily lives and futures. I began to truly step into the great responsibility of owning and leading my life and believing that I can create the life I want.
When I think about the roads my parents went down individually, it scares me to think how easily I could have followed in their footsteps. And I did, in my own ways, for a while, through disordered eating behaviours and alcohol addiction. But in practicing radical honesty with myself about what I wanted for my life, I decided to make different choices because I knew I deserved and was meant for more.
I've lived through a lot of adversity and struggle and have fortunately made it out the other side stronger, healthier, wiser and more resilient. I have overcome years of disordered eating, endured stigma, shame and rejection as a queer woman, unhealthy relationships, alcohol addiction, the death of a parent and the loss of the other. My own experiences and journey have inspired me to become a Sobriety & Mindset Coach to support women in making powerful, positive change in their lives and to step fully into their power so that they can also lead lives of purpose and passion. I wholeheartedly believe that we have the power and resolve to change our lives if we wish. I'm here for you. Let's start the conversation.